The End of All Things

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I have finally achieved my goal of getting rid of all of my stuff! I can not express how excited I am. I have read many people who say how they felt light and free, but for me, that doesn’t even describe it. I feel as if I could fly! I feel like I need a string or something to keep me attached to the ground. I feel like anything is possible!

The most amazing thing that I watched unfold over the last few weeks was how the things that I loved and let stay in my home were immediately wanted by others so that they could love them too. Maybe it is because we like free things from friends. I choose to believe it is because I only kept things in my home that brought me joy.

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For instance, I had a very nice crossbody bag that was perfect for last summer. It had a middle pocket, a side pocket, the perfect color and size, everything. I wanted to give it to someone who would like it as much as I did, especially since I knew that I would not need it this summer. As it hung on the closet door, I contemplated who I could give it to. At work a few days later, I was talking about getting rid of everything. One of the girls asked me about the crossbody bag. I remembered how she loved it when I wore it. I gave it to her. It has been a pleasure seeing her wear it every day since with as much love as I had for it.

There were neighbors who came over when I had an open house and they were setting up their new apartments. So many things I had perfectly fit their idea for their homes. Friends and family stopped by and they would see something and say “This is perfect for me.” It was so affirming to know that not keeping junk and unloved things in my home allowed others to have things that will mean something special to them. They will also remember it as a piece of us.

I was also amazed at Bean. I have never given her many toys. I have mentioned before exactly what she had. It always puzzled me that she would not play with her toys but follow me around instead. I gave her kitchen to a church for their children’s program. Her dollhouse went to the Women and Children’s shelter. Bean’s books went everywhere. She was left with two dolls, Barbies and her stuffed animal friends. All of the accessories for these items can fit into a small gift bag. Guess what. Bean is playing with her toys. She doesn’t spend just a few minutes in her room, but she can spend an hour or more. I should have done this sooner!

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I would love to know if anyone else has ever had this experience. Was your feeling like mine? Did you regret anything you gave away? I look forward to your responses.

7 Comments on “The End of All Things

  1. Yes, there is joy in giving away stuff – and I haven’t missed one thing I gave away up to this point. Not one. But I suspect if we actually move this year, I will be giving away more. At some point I think I will be near the center of the onion (as I have peeled down) of my belongings. Maybe I will never miss anything, or maybe I will reach the level where giving away comes with regrets. It will be interesting to know.

    But what I do know is that we enter this world with nothing and we leave it with nothing. My uncle died at 90 and when my cousins entered his house to clean it out the final time, they discovered that he had already done that. Closets were empty. Only the barest of things remained, the things he used every day. He had lived in that house from the time he got married – probably 60+ years. So his belongings must have been considerable. But he wanted to leave no great burdens behind for his children in his passing. He certainly did that.

    I will remember his example.

    • I agree with you about entering and leaving with nothing. I think about it all of the time. We can take nothing with us. What your uncle did was one of the greatest gifts he could have left his children. Bravo!

  2. I’ve so enjoyed following you since I saw your story at missminimalist.
    If you are willing to share, I’d be interested in photos of your home now that everything is gone. And I look forward to reading of the next adventure you’re embarking on.

  3. Good for you! I’m into getting rid of stuff, but reading your post was a little scary for me. But I’m getting there! I have two others in my household with somewhat different viewpoints on the matter, but I do what I can.

    My husband’s aunt and uncle past away last year and their house is now being used by my husband and his siblings as a getaway. There is so much stuff in that house. As many people of their age, his aunt and uncle had a number of Reader’s Digest Condensed Books. I told my husband last night that they should feel free to burn them when they have a bonfire there. He was a little taken aback because there are certain sociological connotations to book burning, but I told them that there are tons of those things out and about and, really, of no value to anyone. But, I have a feeling that those books and everything else in that house will outlive all of us. They haven’t even taken the clothes to charity.

    • Sorry the post was scary for you! The whole experience, though uphill, has actually been so freeing.
      Helping others realize this is the hard part. Good luck! Maybe the money your husband can make on the junk could be an incentive?

      • LOL. No worries. We should all do things that scare us. We have nothing to fear but fear itself.

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