Updated on March 16, 2016
Are children really that expensive? cont.
Let’s talk about school. When I started writing this blog I talked about the difficulty that many parents face when deciding which school to send their child. But that was all about the curriculum and the philosophy behind the school. Let’s talk about the expense.
I suppose a noticeable difference has come since Bean has started school. People do things a lot different in schools than they do in the home day care. At schools, I find it mildly surprising how parents pay for the school, pay for the lunches, pay for activities, pay for after school care, etc. Our neighborhood school isn’t very good, so Bean goes to a school that is not very expensive. In fact, it is cheaper than sending her to day care. Looking at schools around the city, I am truly amazed at the cost of education when the quality is about the same. At this age, all the children are learning to count, read and write. I suppose it is what you are looking for or who you are looking to portray yourself ..
The hardest thing to face as Bean gets older is the peer pressure she will face. I was different. I remember noticing the styles that the other kids wore when I went to public school, but I thought more about either saving my money to get it or that it just wasn’t that important. I would wait for a sale, and by the time I got the thing, it wasn’t in style any more. It didn’t matter that much to me.
Bean is different. She notices what is going on faster than I did when I was her age and cares more. I have chosen to dress her in a school uniform even though the school she attends does not make it mandatory. Bean is o.k. with that, but if she could have her way, she would choose wear whatever her friends have on and do what they do. I am hoping that by explaining that we don’t do those things at our house and why, it will set the precedent for when she is older.
Parents are told that they need to save for not only their retirement, but also their children’s higher education. But do we really? I have decided that I will not pay for Bean university education. She will go to a European university where the fees are extremely low. If she decides not to do that, she can always go to a two-year city college and then complete her four-year degree at a state school. She will then need to work her way through school. I will not pay for it. I am proud that I worked my way through school and graduated with no debt. I believe that she can do the same as well.
In conclusion, here is a quote I came across and liked: “Much education today is monumentally ineffective. All too often we are giving young people cut flowers when we should teach them to grow their own plants. – John Gardner” If Bean starts developing expensive tastes and threatening to blow my theory that children don’t have to be as expensive as the statistics say they are, I will tell her “get a job”. How about that!?